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adoption The loving and legal process in which birthparents rights to care for their children are transferred to the adoptive parents.

agency adoption

Adoptions administered by organizations licensed by state governments specifically as adoption agencies.  All legal matters are assumed by the agency.  The agency assumes custody of the child at birth prior to placing the child in a home usually approved by the agency.  An agency provides many services to both sets of parents, primarily screening and counseling prospective adoptive parents so that the birthparents can be reassured that their baby will enter a good loving home.  This is also important for the adoptive parents, for they must first come to terms with their infertility and know why parenting is so important to them before they can be the best adoptive parents.  Birthparents also benefit from counseling during the decision making process and the grief that follows the birth of their baby.

independent
adoption

Adoptions conducted by a variety of individuals including attorneys, doctors, counselors, etc.  They act mainly as intermediaries between the birth and adoptive parents.

open adoption

An open adoption means there is some form of free communication between the two sets of parents after the adoption arrangements have been completed.  This could mean that letters are exchanged periodically through the intermediary to maintain confidentiality, or the birthparents are allowed to see and interact with the child they made adoption plans for.  In an open adoption, confidentiality is often determined by the two sets of parents so an ideal comfort level can be reached between them.

closed adoption

There is a maintenance of confidentiality that is protected by the courts.  No information is exchanged between the sets of parents.  Few adoptions can be termed as completely closed, and most are moving toward cautious openness.

 

 

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N E G A T I V E  T E R M S P O S I T I V E  T E R M S
Give up for adoption

Surrender

Relinquish
Made an adoption plan

Made adoption arrangements

Emotionally over-charged words conjure up images of mothers abandoning their infants or women having their babies torn from their arms.  The positive terms describe a carefully planned, legal adoption chosen responsibly by the birthparents as a parenting alternative.

Keep Parent

"Keep" implies that our children are objects to be kept or thrown away.  Birthparents who choose not to make adoption plans choose to parent their child; they are taking on the responsibility to care and raise the child, not just to "keep" the child.

Unwanted
pregnancy
Untimely
pregnancy

By calling the pregnancy "unwanted" we are also calling the baby unwanted; children who are adopted are some of the most wanted and planned babies in the world--by their adoptive parents.
The positive term makes clear that the baby is expected at a time in the birthparents' lives when they are not ready to be the kind of parents they want to be for their child.

Real Parents

Natural Parents

Birth Parents

Biological Parents

Referring to the birthparents as the "real" or "natural" parents is somewhat "plastic."  Since the adoptive parents are the responsible caregivers, they are the parents.  Couples who choose adoption as a parenting alternative are the "birthparents" or "biological parents."

Adopted Child My Child

Our Child

It is not appropriate to label the child according to the way he/she was brought into the family.

 

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Adoption.com

Information for Birthmothers and Adoptive Parents

Adoption Connection
11223 Cornell Park Dr.
Cincinnati, Ohio  45242
(513) 489-1616
(866) 489-1616 toll free

Adoption by Gentle Care
Columbus, Ohio
(614) 469-0007
(800) 824-9633 toll free  
Adoption Circle
Columbus
, Ohio
(614) 237-7222
(800) 927-7222 toll free 
Lutheran Adoption Network
Cincinnati, Ohio
(513) 326-5430
(877) 278-2416 toll free  
Catholic Social Services
Cincinnati, Ohio
(513) 241-7745  

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